This too shall pass.

Question- Swamiji, a few days back I broke up with my girlfriend. Now, I am in great sadness and distress. What should I do? Will meditation help me? Which meditation should I do?

Answer- “Not letting even a single thought go unnoticed is meditation” J. Krishnamurti.

It often happens that people start practising meditation after heartbreak to escape from the loneliness. It is highly deplorable that we always become interested in religion at the wrong moment and for the wrong reasons only. Kabir is right when he says’

”दुःख में सुमिरन सब करे, सुख में करे न कोई, जो सुख में सुमिरन करे, दुःख काहे को होई”

Always remember this ’Anything that you do to escape from reality is not meditation.’ Technically, there is no difference between the people who take drugs, and who meditate. One thing is common between them that they are escaping from reality. Whether you go to a movie or Mandir, it is all the same. 

So, if you are actually interested in spirituality and would like to bring about a radical change in your life, you must learn to learn from 'that which is', instead of hankering after 'that which is not'.

Before doing anything, one must ask, 'why am I doing this or going to do this..?' 'Why I want to meditate?' Ask this question to yourself and it will be the beginning of meditation. Know your motive of doing meditation. And this very knowledge is meditation not what you do in the name of meditation.

Sitting silently is not meditation, watching breath or chanting mantra is not meditation. There is no such thing, action or activities as meditation. Meditation is not an act. Hence, there is no technique or shortcut. 

Knowing the motive, especially the hidden-motive of every action that you do is meditation. So, when you ask how to meditate, you basically are asking a wrong question. There is no 'how-to-ism' in the realm of spirituality. Anybody who is answering your 'how-to' is fooling you, in fact exploiting you, be it your Guru or Google. These days, Google is fooling people more than any Guru or God. 

Your heartbreak can become a great spiritual breakthrough if you don't make an escape from it. As we say in Zen, "If the fool would persist in his folly, he would become wise." So, learn to persist, don't escape. It is rightly said in Lazy men’s guide to enlightenment ”when in hell, keep going. The road to heaven goes through hell.” So, keep going. ”This too shall pass.